There is a common stereotype that men are crazy about women they call “daddy”.
Some people think it’s a fun way to play with dominance and submission, while others seem to think it’s just a pet name or a way of turning on your man in the bedroom.
Other people find it too scary to reconcile your lover with a father-daughter relationship.
So, do boys like being called “daddy,” and if so, why?
13 possible reasons why men like to be called daddy
Why do some men like to be called daddy?
There isn’t a single reason. There can be one or many reasons why the pet name appeals to your significant other.
1. He feels like a protector.
The idea of a father figure is usually portrayed as someone who protects and cares for loved ones. Many men respond positively to being called “daddy” because it makes them feel like a protector and nurturer.
In other words, he feels like you’re saying you’re counting on him to protect you and give you what you need. Many traditionally masculine men find the idea appealing (and even sexually invigorating).
2. He feels dominant.
Some men enjoy the feeling of being dominant in the bedroom. Calling him “Daddy” reinforces this idea, suggesting he’s in charge.
That’s fine as long as you both agree to this sexual dynamic.
For most people, it’s not fully associated with BDSM, but it does refer to the notion of a hypermasculine male “taking the lead” sexually. It usually involves the role of a submissive partner.
Playing with dominance and submission can be fun in the bedroom and doesn’t necessarily have to extend to other parts of your relationship.
3. It gives him confidence.
Calling someone “daddy” implies that they are a trusted person to you and not even necessarily a literal father figure. In a sexual relationship, it can be a way to boost your partner’s confidence.
They imply that you feel safe with him and trust that he is physically “capable”. Many men thrive on their partner’s trust and trust in them, which makes them feel more masculine.
4. It makes him feel special.
You probably don’t call anyone “Daddy”. Using a unique pet name like this for your partner implies that they hold a place in your life that no one else does.
It can be a great confidence boost for men and make them feel loved and valued. Whether it’s a romantic or just a sexual innuendo for him, there’s something special about claiming a pet name that no one else has.
5. He looks up to his own father.
If your partner has a good relationship with their father, the nickname “Daddy” can evoke positive feelings.
Many men who are on good terms with their fathers feel that this was the first example of real manhood, so it is not surprising that they feel comfortable being given the same role.
They may not even consciously relate the moniker to a literal father figure — they just feel safe and encouraged when compared to their hero, and it also makes them feel heroic.
6. It makes him feel like a leader.
Some men respond positively to the idea of being the leader in a relationship, even though it doesn’t literally mean “the man is the head of the family.”
A nickname like “Daddy” implies being in charge, a concept that can turn on many men. This notion is somewhat related to feeling dominant in a sexual relationship.
If you both respond to this in the bedroom, that’s fine (as long as you consider each other’s needs).
7. It shows that you belong together.
This might be a bit confusing, but essentially calling your significant other “daddy” is a way of laying claim to him.
You probably don’t call many other people by that name (except perhaps your actual father), so use of the term implies it’s yours.
Some guys find it extra sexy when you use a pet name like this in front of other people and let the world know it’s special to you. That can be a real confidence boost!
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8. It makes him feel like he’s your be-all and end-all.
For most women, the relationship with their father is something special. Nobody can ever replace him.
Some men like being called “daddy” because it suggests that he’s the most important man in your life — even that your relationship supersedes your relationship with your father.
Others might find this a bit gross, and it’s okay if it’s not for you. But for many men, it doesn’t even have to be a match between him and his father; it just suggests he’s your captain.
9. It’s playful.
Pet names open the door to romantic, playful flirting—especially ones you definitely wouldn’t use for someone else.
Using a nickname like “Daddy” has an element of fun flirtation at all times and carries over well into the bedroom.
Eventually, it might even become a signal to suggest intimate fun if you’re uncomfortable using it in other contexts. Regardless, these silly pet names can be sexy because they’re both funny and suggestive.
If you’re the kind of couple that enjoys playing adult games or just being silly, they might enjoy a unique pet name like this.
10. It’s familiar.
Have you ever dated an old married couple who have been calling each other “Mom” and “Dad” for so long that they hardly ever use their real names anymore?
Using a pet name like “Daddy” can have a cute and familiar element because it suggests it’s a part of your home.
Even if you two haven’t been together long or don’t have children together, there’s something sweet and intimate about calling him “daddy.” Believe it or not, some guys like the nickname for reasons that aren’t even sexual.
11. It’s vulnerable.
There’s no denying that using a term like “daddy” is vulnerable. It can feel awkward and silly at first. It’s definitely intimate, whether you interpret it as an expression of trust, submission, or familiarity.
Many men like to hear terms like this because it requires you to be uniquely vulnerable and to express that you trust them in a way that you don’t trust anyone else.
Of course, if it’s a little too flimsy or cumbersome for you, you don’t need to keep using it (although you can always try it before deciding it’s not for you).
12. It’s exploratory.
Using pet names like these in the bedroom can feel weird and awkward at first. For many couples, it’s all part of exploring their sexual relationship and finding out what they find fun or exciting as a couple.
A man may enjoy hearing you say “daddy” because it suggests being creative and exploratory in your intimate relationship—especially if you’ve never mentioned such a term.
Just keep in mind that like other types of sexual exploration, it can also go south; just laugh about it and try something else.
13. He feels like an accomplished lover.
Whether it’s your “thing” or not, there’s a stereotype that women call a certain type of man “daddy.” Pop culture gives the impression that it is a term for a man who is an experienced and desirable lover.
Your partner may enjoy hearing you say “daddy” because it makes them feel like you want them and think they’re great in bed.
Call it silly, but a name carries a lot of power. For some reason, pop culture decided that’s what you call someone you think is really hot – so they feel it when you use them.
Ultimately, you don’t have to use all the things guys like to be called.
It’s up to you and your partner to figure out what feels right about your relationship — and it’s okay if it doesn’t work, too.